For anxiety and sorrow:
اللّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعْوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الهَمِّ وَ الْحُزْنِ، والعَجْزِ والكَسَلِ والبُخْلِ والجُبْنِ، وضَلْعِ الدَّيْنِ وغَلَبَةِ الرِّجال
Allaahumma ‘innee ‘a’oothu bika minal-hammi walhazani, wal’ajzi walkasali, walbukhli waljubni, wa dhala’id-dayni wa ghalabatir-rijaal
O Allah, I seek refuge in You from grief and sadness, from weakness and from laziness, from miserliness and from cowardice, from being overcome by debt and overpowered by men (i.e. others).
Al-Bukhari 7/158. See also Al-Asqalani, Fathul-Bari 11/173
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymin: “The Prophet was the best one with his family and his wives. He spoke with them and listened to them.”
[al-Liqa ash-Shahri 79]
"Some of the youth make a mistake when they enter into Islam, thus
they distance themselves from their parents or they disassociate from
them or they do not visit them, or treat them kindly. And no doubt this
is a mistake. It is required for him to be a good companion to his
parents and to strive to be kind to his parents. And he should not obey
them if they call him to disbelief and associating partners with Allah
the Exalted. And there is no contradiction between these two affairs.
There is no contradiction between being a good companion to the
parents while at the same time not obeying them in their call to
associating partners with Allah the Exalted. “
- Interacting with Non-Muslim Parents-A Guide for the New Muslim–Sh. Abdur-Razzaaq Al-Badr
Asmaa Ibn Ubayd said:
“Two men of the people of innovations came to Ibn Sireen and said: ‘O Aba Bakr, shall we tell you some hadith?’ he said: ‘No!’ they said: ‘Then we recite for you some verses from the book of Allah?’ he said: ‘No! It’s either you leave me alone or I will leave!’. When they left he said: ‘I was afraid he recite some verse for me and distort it’s meaning and then it settles in my heart forever.’”.
[Related by ad-Darami 1/81]
It is reported that Imām Al-Zuhrī (may Allāh have mercy on him) said:
"We used to sometimes come to a scholar and what we learned of his manners was more beloved to us than the knowledge we took from him."
[Abū Nuʿaym, Ḥilyatu Al-ʾAwliyāʾ #4575]
Ibn al-Qayyim said:
‘Every Muslim should be warned of the oppression of: ‘I – My/Mine – I Possess’
Indeed these three words are what Iblees (Shaytan), Fir’awn and Qaroon were tried with.
- Iblees said: ‘I am better than him’
- Fir’awn said: ‘Is not mine the Kingdom of Egypt,’
- Qaroon said: ‘This has been given to me only because of knowledge I possess.’
So regarding the saying of the Slave of Allaah ‘I’ – then the best that he can be described with is:
- I am a slave who sins, makes mistakes, seeks forgiveness and recognizes this.
So regarding the saying of ‘My/Mine’ – and those statements similar to that is:
- My sins, my crimes, my humbleness, my depravation and submissiveness.
So regarding the saying of ‘I Possess’:
- Forgive me for my mistakes and what I do intentionally, in jest, or in seriousness and I possess all these shortcomings.
[Taken from ‘Za’ad al-Ma’aad’ 2/475 – By Ibn al-Qayyim al-Jawzeeyah]
Our Prophet (peace be upon him) is the most perfect person in his Da`wah and Iman. If he was severe and harsh-hearted, people would have broken away from him, so what do you think of yourself?
One should be patient and persistent and should not react forcibly to bad answers or harshness, even swearwords but one should adhere to gentleness and mercy and observe what Allah (Exalted be He) says to Musa (Moses) and Harun (Aaron) when He sent both of them to Pharaoh: "And speak to him mildly, perhaps he may accept admonition or fear (Allâh)."
Perhaps your invitee accepts admonition or fears Allah (Exalted be He).
It is authentically reported on the authority of `Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“O Allah, who (happens to) acquire some kind of control over the affairs of my people and is kind to them, be kind to him, and who (happens to) acquire some kind of control over the affairs of my people and is hard upon them, be hard upon him. “
The Hadith includes both a pleasant promise in case of kindness and great warning in case of harshness.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Anyone who is deprived of kindness is deprived of all good. “
The Prophet (may Allah’s Peace and Blessings be upon him) also says: "Adhere to kindness; kindness does not become a part of anything without adorning it, and is not withdrawn from anything without marring it."
al-Albaanee: “An unlearned who answers questions can’t only say “its allowed” or “not”, rather he must mention the scholar who says it..”
[Silsilatul-Huda- Wan-Noor 333]
Don’t trust a statement unless evidence is provided
Don’t trust a person who doesn’t refer back to the scholars when they speak about Islam
Don’t trust a person with your religion so easily.
Correctness in your Deen is so important both in this life and for your Hereafter.So be careful, especially of the many personalities on this website.
Evidence is the foundation for everything, so cling to it <3